The Conversation With the Person Themselves

I need to talk with [Who You Care For] about [About What]. They are an adult and this is their life. Here's how they communicate best: [How They Communicate Best]. Here's what I'm worried about: [What You're Afraid Of]. Here's what they've said about it before: [Anything They've Said Before]. Please help me: 1. Say the main thing in one or two plain sentences, no idioms, no softening that hides the point. 2. List the choices that are actually theirs to make in this, so I can offer real options and not fake ones. 3. Suggest how to give them time and a way to come back to it. 4. Tell me what I should be ready to hear, and how to respond without arguing. Treat them as the adult they are. Don't write it as if I'm talking to a child.