Questions for the Group Home or Day Program Visit

We're visiting [What You're Visiting] for my adult child [Initials] ([Their Disability]) on [Visit Date]. What matters most to us: [What Matters Most]. What's gone wrong with providers before: [What's Gone Wrong Before]. Help me: 1) give me 15 questions grouped by staffing, safety, daily life, communication with families, and money — and for each, what a good answer sounds like versus a red flag, 2) tell me what to watch for that isn't in any brochure — how staff talk to residents, smells, whether people are doing anything or just sitting, 3) give me three questions to ask a current family, not the director, 4) tell me what to ask for in writing before we decide, 5) give me a way to include [Initials]'s reaction in the decision, even if they don't use many words. Don't be diplomatic. Tell me what you'd actually want to know.