My Online Dating Safety System

I'm an autistic adult using [Apps] to meet people. I sometimes miss manipulation cues, and I want habits that protect me without making me paranoid. Build my personal safety system: 1) a verification checklist BEFORE meeting anyone in person — video call first, reverse image search their photos, check that their story stays consistent, 2) my red flags in plain, literal language — especially: intense affection very fast ('love bombing'), always having excuses to avoid video calls, rushing me off the app to private messaging, and ANY request for money, gift cards, or crypto — that one is always no, from anyone, forever, no exceptions, 3) a first-meeting protocol: public place, my own transportation there and back, and my trusted person [Your Trusted Person] knows where, when, and with whom, and gets a check-in text from me, 4) scripts to slow things down or say no without over-explaining, 5) a list of what I never share early: home address, work schedule, financial details, explicit photos. If anyone asks me for money or I feel afraid, that's a stop-and-tell-my-person moment — not something I handle alone.