When They Accuse You of Stealing

My [Relationship] [Initials] ([Their Diagnosis]) accuses [Who Gets Accused] of [Accusation]. It happens [How Often]. What's really going on with the item: [What's Really Going On]. How I've been reacting: [How You've Been Reacting]. Help me: 1) explain why this happens — hidden things, gaps filled with the most available story, fear of losing control — so I can stop hearing it as an attack on me, 2) give me three responses that acknowledge the feeling ('that would be so upsetting') without agreeing or arguing, and a way to redirect into 'let's look together', 3) tell me the practical fixes: a 'lost things' basket, duplicates of the things that go missing, the usual hiding spots to check first, 4) tell me what to say to an aide or a sibling who's been accused so they don't quit or get hurt, 5) give me something for the drive home the day it's aimed at me. Honest that it hurts. No 'just don't take it personally.'