Telling the Family

My [Relationship] [Initials] has been diagnosed with [Their Diagnosis]. I need to tell [Who to tell]. What [Initials] wants people to know, if they've said: [Parent Wishes]. Complications: [Complications]. Help me: 1) write a short, plain message for extended family and friends — what's going on, what's changed, what hasn't, and how they can help — that doesn't over-share and doesn't sound like an obituary, 2) write a warmer, longer version for the two or three people who'll actually show up, 3) give me responses for the ones who'll say 'she seems fine to me', 'have you tried coconut oil', or 'I'll come visit soon' and never do, 4) tell me how to ask for specific help instead of 'let me know if you need anything', 5) tell me what to say to [Initials] about who knows. Honest and dignified. This is their story, not a group announcement.